Dr. Bijay Singh

Parenting is perhaps the most demanding profession in the world, yet it is one for which most of us receive no formal training. We often fall back on the "default" settings inherited from our own upbringing—patterns that may have been functional in a different era but can be restrictive or even harmful in today’s complex world. The journey of "excellent upbringing" (or acchi parvarish ) is not about reaching a destination of perfection. It is about the deliberate, daily practice of self-regulation, empathy, and intentionality. Part I: The Hidden Pitfalls of Well-Intentioned Parenting Even with the best intentions, parents often inadvertently create barriers to their child’s development. Recognizing these traps is the first step toward dismantling them. 1. The Comparison Paradox When you compare your child to a sibling, cousin, or neighbor, you are not inspiring them; you are invalidating them. Comparison triggers a "not-good-enough" narrative tha...

Fatherhood is more than just a biological role; it is a profound responsibility that shapes the human experience. a truly great father is built from the inside out. He is not just a provider of resources, but a provider of values, stability, and emotional intelligence.   If you are a father, or if you are preparing to step into this life-changing journey, these 10 traits serve as the ultimate blueprint for the kind of man who leaves a legacy of love and integrity. 1. Emotional Intelligence A father who is emotionally intelligent knows his own internal weather. He understands when he is feeling triggered, joyful, or stressed, and he knows how to regulate those emotions. The "We" Mindset: He moves beyond self-centeredness. He listens deeply, empathizes with his child's perspective, and creates a safe space where emotions—both his and his child’s—are welcomed and respected. 2. The Virtue of Patience Children learn at their own pace. A father w...