How to inculcate Discipline in the Kids

 

As a parent, one of your jobs to teach your child to behave. It's a job that takes time and patience. But, it helps to learn the effective and healthy discipline strategies.

Here are some ways to to help your child learn acceptable behavior as they grow and the Healthy Discipline strategies that really works. 

I must recommends positive discipline strategies that effectively teach children to manage their behavior and keep them from harm while promoting healthy development.

1.      Show and tell. Teach children right from wrong with calm words and actions. Model behaviors you would like to see in your children.Be the Example.

2.      Set limits. Have clear and consistent rules your children can follow. Be sure to explain these rules in age-appropriate terms they can understand.

3.      Give consequences. Calmly and firmly explain the consequences if they don't behave. For example, tell tehy that if they does not pick up their toys, you will put them away for the rest of the day. Be prepared to follow through right away. Don't give in by giving them back after a few minutes. But remember, never take away something your child truly needs, such as a meal.

4.      Hear them out. Listening is important. Let your child finish the story before helping solve the problem. Watch for times when misbehavior has a pattern, like if your child is feeling jealous. Talk with your child about this rather than just giving consequences.

5.      Give them your attention. The most powerful tool for effective discipline is attention—to reinforce good behaviors and discourage others. Remember, all children want their parent's attention.

6.      Catch them being good. Children need to know when they do something bad--and when they do something good. Notice good behavior and point it out, praising success and good tries. Be specific (for example, "Wow, you did a good job putting that toy away!").

7.      Know when not to respond. As long as your child isn't doing something dangerous and gets plenty of attention for good behavior, ignoring bad behavior can be an effective way of Preventing it. Ignoring bad behavior can also teach children natural consequences of their actions. For example, if your child keeps dropping her cookies on purpose, she will soon have no more cookies left to eat. If she throws and breaks her toy, she will not be able to play with it. It will not be long before she learns not to drop her cookies and to play carefully with her toys.

8.      Be prepared for trouble. Plan ahead for situations when your child might have trouble behaving. Prepare them for upcoming activities and how you want them to behave.

9.      Redirect bad behavior. Sometimes children misbehave because they are bored or don't know any better. Find something else for your child to do and engage.

10.  Call a time-out. A time out can be especially useful when a specific rule is broken. This discipline tool works best by warning children they will get a time out if they don't stop, reminding them what they did wrong in as few words―and with as little emotion―as possible, and removing them from the situation for a pre-set length of time (1 minute per year of age is a good rule of thumb). With children who are at least 3 years old, you can try letting their children lead their own time-out instead of setting a timer. You can just say, "Go to time out and come back when you feel ready and in control." This strategy, which can help the child learn and practice self-management skills, also works well for older children and teens.

Lets see some tips for the time out.

The basics of a time-out—by the numbers:

1.      Warn your child first, "If you don't stop, you'll have a time-out."

2.      Name the behavior (i.e., "don't hit").

3.      Have your child go to a quiet place, like a corner of a room, not the bedroom or a play room.

4.      Start the timer—1 minute for each year of age. For example:

·         2 years old = 2 minutes

·         3 years old = 3 minutes

·         4 years old = 4 minutes

·         5 years old = 5 minutes

5.      If your child leaves the time out area, have her go back. If she throws a tantrum during time-out, ignore it unless there is danger of harm.

6.      Restart the timer. Explain that he needs to "stay put" until it's over.

The timer is flexible....

With children who are at least 3 years old, parents can try letting their children lead their own time-out. You can just say, "Go to time out and come back when you feel ready and in control." This can take the place of the timer and help the child learn and practice self-management skills. This strategy also works well for older children and teens.

Adults can take time-outs, too.

Correcting a child's behavior can be hard and, sometimes, frustrating. If you start to feel stressed or out of control, you can take a time-out for yourself. First make sure your child is in a safe place, like a varandaah, Aangan, or bedroom. Then, do something you find relaxing, like listening to music, reading or meditation. When you feel calm, go hug your child and start fresh. 

Remember:

Grandparents and other caregivers can learn how time-outs work, too. Like with all discipline tools, the key is trying to use time-outs the same way each time for the behavior you want to stop. But, remember, time-outs can be used too much. Try other positive ways to correct your child's behavior. Talk with your pediatrician for more ideas.